This post is going to be personal for me. Below is going to be a rant about why I stop drinking.
Most people aren’t living to their fullest potential.
I am not here to tell you how to live your life, or give you advice on how to live your life. I am here to explain to you why I quit drinking. To explain why I quit, I have to explain why I started. With drinking, there are 3 reasons why people drink. The first reason is because they are trying to escape their boring life. Life is not exciting for them, so the only trill they have throughout the week is drinking on the weekend at the bars. The second reason why people drink is because they are running away from their problems and responsibilities. I know people who, when problems would arise like they eventually always do, aren’t strong enough to face it. And it’s not even that they aren’t strong enough to face it, they aren’t man enough to face their problems. So they run away from it and drink, hoping when they come back from drinking, their problems will just magically be resolved.
I am here to say that this rarely happens. Their problems come to the surface even stronger and you come back weaker. Your problems are your responsibility, the drinking doesn’t solve them. They might solve the problem temporarily, or in other words it just pauses your responsibilities. It doesn’t get rid of them the problem.
The third reason why people drink is because it’s a social norm. This is where I fall into. I never drank because of my problems, or because I was sad, or because I was bored, I started to drink because it was a social norm. I started my freshman year of college. As you can tell this is normal for most people. Now a lot of the people you maybe know probably fall into the social norm category. The reason you may of started drinking was because of it being a social norm but eventually this reason turns into more reasons to drink. I heard so many reasons why people drink. But most main reasons are because of the three I just mentioned.
Why Do People Go Out Drinking?
I believe this is because they are trying to find love. They may not have very good social skills with men or women, so they wait til they get some liquid courage(alcohol) in them , so they can talk to a woman or man they are attracted to. I don’t think anything is wrong with this, I have seen many people meet their spouse at the bars. The issue is because this makes their confidence and social skills weaker. I mean you are going to have to talk to men and women when you are not drinking, so in the back of your head, you feel like you need to drink to talk to them. You may not sound as confident when talking to someone attractive when you aren’t drinking. I feel that if your social skills are weak then you should work on them without alcohol. Social skills is a SKILL, its a muscle that can be strengthen. You can find love anywhere. My mom met my dad when my dad was playing the lottery one random day. So love can be found anywhere.
Now I was never really a heavy drinker, I started to slow down after my sophomore year of college. Before I quit drinking, I would just drink once on the weekends at the bars or clubs. I would never consider myself a big drinker but the only part I really enjoyed was the getting all dressed up to go out. The next morning after drinking always felt like a gloomy day to me. I always felt off as most people do after a night of drinking. No matter how good my night was, I always for some reason regretted going out the next day.
30 Day Sober Challenge
So a few months ago my buddies and I started this 30 day sober challenge. No drinking all month. So instead of going out on the weekends, we just did other things like try new pizza places or see a new movie. Instead of going to bed at 4am, I went to bed at 11 PM and got up at 7:00 AM. At the end of the month, I felt amazing. I felt like drinking was actually pulling me down. My creativity, and energy was through the roof during the 30 day sober challenge. I was able to come up with ideas much more quicker for my YouTube channel and Instagram posts. It gave me an idea to start this website. It gave me the energy to invest my time into this website. I also felt much more happier.
To test this point, I drank a couple weeks after I finished the 30 day sober challenge and the difference was remarkable. There is way more benefits to not drinking than there is to drinking. When I drank after the challenge, I felt the negative effects from drinking on Saturday night into Wednesday night. I only drank Saturday night and I felt bad and unproductive into Wednesday night. So I realized that I was sacrificing my mental and physical health for one night of instant gratification.
If you have been following my this website, Instagram or YouTube channel then you know that I am all about self-improvement. I am all about getting rid of bad habits and replacing them with good ones.
The Last Straw
The last straw of my drinking days was just recently. So I have weekly schedule where everyday I upload two posts on Instagram, Monday I record a video for my YouTube channel, Friday I edit it and upload the video, and Sunday I write a post for this website about my video. So I decided I worked hard the past couple weeks nonstop, so I decided that I would go out with my buddies to the bar on Saturday night. As I just told you, I write these blog post every Sunday. So it came to Sunday morning after my night of drinking and for the life of me I could get myself to write this blog. I ended up sitting around all Sunday, being unproductive. I didn’t upload the blog until Monday night and I didn’t record my video for YouTube until Wednesday, because I couldn’t come up with an idea for the channel until Wednesday. So as you can tell just one night of drinking doesn’t just effect me the next day, it effects me a few days after. So I decide if I was going to get serious about my career and the living the life I dreamed of, I need to quit drinking because it is holding me back from my full potential.
So like I said above, there is more benefits to not drinking then there is to drinking. If you are trying to manifest the life of your dreams, it will take much longer or may not ever come because alcohol lowers your vibration. Manifesting will be much more difficult.
Body Eating Spirit
The word “Alcohol” comes from the Arabic “al-kuhl” which means “BODY EATING SPIRIT”, and gives root origins to the English term for “ghoul”. In Middle Eastern folklore, a “ghoul” is an evil demon thought to eat human bodies, either as stolen corpses or as children. “Alcohol (n.) – 1540s (early 15c. as alcofol), “fine powder produced by sublimation,” from Medieval Latin alcohol “powdered ore of antimony,” from Arabic al-kuhul “kohl,” the fine metallic powder used to darken the eyelids, from kahala “to stain, paint.” The word “Alcohol” comes from the Arabic “al-kuhl” which means “BODY EATING SPIRIT”, and gives root origins to the English term for “ghoul”. In Middle Eastern folklore, a “ghoul” is an evil demon thought to eat human bodies, either as stolen corpses or as children. The word alcohol is also linked to the fixed star in astronomy known as Algol- also known as “the Demon’s head.” The information in this paragraph is from The Costa Rica News (TCRN). Their source is from Zahrah Sita.
Final Reason I Quit
The final reason why I started my quitting of drinking was because alcohol provokes anxiety and depression. Now I was never really the anxious type until I got to college. It wasn’t until I got to Junior year of college was when I felt like I was developing some sort of generalized anxiety. I didn’t know why I was nervous all the time. So I did some research on alcohol and anxiety and studies show that drinking alcohol provokes anxiety, it gives you anxiety. Now you are probably asking yourself….“How is this true when I feel less anxiety when I drink?”
Fair question but just like any medicine you take, it covers up the disorder , but when the medicine wears off, the illness comes back stronger. It only stops the symptoms not the disease. It’s not until the alcohol effects wear until you feel the anxiety come back. Believe me, it comes back stronger. Alcohol messes with your brain and body. Also I never had depression before but I felt that if I keep drinking, I would eventually develop it. Alcohol is a antidepressant, so the next day after a night of drinking, you are going to feel depressed for awhile. I realized being sober feels better than being not sober. Being fully present and conscious is so blissful.
You aren’t a good or bad person because you drink or don’t drink.
Don’t think I am crapping on drinking because I don’t think that it is totally bad but for the sake of achieving the life I want and the things I believe in, I had to quit.
To conclude this post, I would just like to state that we become pleasured centered because we haven’t or aren’t actively searching for our purpose and meaning of our life. When you don’t know your purpose, you work all week at a job you hate for that couple hours of trill on the weekend. To me it makes no sense. We all work so hard on the week days just for this little trill. Searching for trill and pleasure is a never ending cycle. You will always be trying to find your next pleasure, leaving you unhappy and unfulfilled. If you were actively searching for your purpose, you wouldn’t being chasing these little meaningless trills and instant gratification. Find your life purpose, and this need for trill and pleasure will subside.
THANK YOU FOR READING MY RANT